The whole issue of choosing whether or not to have children, when to have children, and how many children to have is extremely multi-faceted. It is an issue that has preoccupied recent generations far more than the generations preceding us simply due to the sponsorship of its patron saint: birth controls.* I know you know that. But have you thought about how, because of the widened availability of birth controls, we have immensely more freedom now than any civilization had before us? Most of us take that freedom for granted. Some of us, occasionally, are terrified by it.
I have lots of friends in lots of different relationships with birth controls. Today, I’ll just discuss the heterosexually married ones. Several have been married for awhile, but are still unsure about if and when they want to start a family. Several have 1.2 kids and are wondering if they could survive another. And several have made the decision to “be done,” saying that they just “felt like they were done.”
It’s gotten me thinking and talking with a lot of people about all of these life-changing decisions. And so far, it’s led me to one conclusion. (Many more, I hope, are forthcoming.)
Therefore, I have a proposal. It is just a proposal; I’m still working it out in my head and heart. But I’d like to start the conversation. So I’ll just hit you with the proposal and then make my arguments from there.
When it comes to the decision about how many children to have, I propose that husbands give their wives 51% of the vote.
Hear me out. [Read more…]